How To Stay Positive When Surrounded By Negativity
We often end up being in a negative environment for a short time or sometimes even in the long term. It becomes hard to remember how to stay positive when surrounded by negativity all the time. Especially with what has been happening in our world lately. The best example of this is unemployment. In this economic condition when everyone is losing his or her jobs, negativity often sets into a person. Some people who lose their jobs get a new job within a short span of time, while others have to wait.
Some people live optimistically to land some job one day or the other while others get into a depression. However, studies show that optimistic people achieve greater success. This means a person who keeps hope lands up a job faster than one who gets frustrated.
The frustration and depression reflect on your cover letter and that results in denial of jobs by the employer. An employer can easily find out a low self-esteemed person from a highly esteemed person. A low esteemed person has lesser productivity. Therefore, why should a company employ a person who has less productivity and make a loss? Being a negative person, you also search for the wrong job opportunities and thus end up missing more jobs. Therefore, instead of going into a depressed state, stand up straight, take things in your stride, and keep hope.
One good technique to stay positive in a negative environment is to jot down the positive things that come to your mind or that exist in your life. Do this on a daily basis. For instance, write the names of people who love you, all the possessions that you have acquired these years by sheer hard work, and so on. Also, note at least one positive thing that you have done in the day. This will make you feel that you are not useless. You can do the world some good. This feeling is important to stay positive in a negative environment.
On days when pessimism is likely to set into your mind, engage yourself more in outdoor activities that interest you. You might be a little hesitant at first to go out, but once you go out and engage yourself in the outdoor activities you will start thinking positively. For instance, if you love playing badminton, play badminton for at least two hours every day. Think that you have a holiday and you are pursuing your interests and hobbies during this holiday. Engaging yourself in your interests is not a waste of time rather it is useful.
Take the Good in Life and Reject the Rest
When was the last time you watched a bee as it busily went from flower to flower collecting the nectar and pollen that would become the life-saving energy source for the larvae back at the hive? While some bees are happy to collect pollen from many different plants and flowers, others specialize in only collecting from certain species. The honey produced in the hives of these specialist bees is highly sought after for its unique qualities and flavors.
In our life choices, we can be like the specialist honeybee, taking the good things offered to us in life, and rejecting the rest that will potentially harm us, or our quality of life. Learning to say no is a powerful tool that many of us rarely if ever use. There is nothing wrong with the pollens and nectar than the specialist bees reject. They have the potential to produce delicious honey, for the honeybees that are searching for a special type of pollen; they represent imperfections and time-wasting activity.
Learning to reject or say no to what will hurt or harm us in the long term is the key to reducing the amount of stress we carry each day and to feeling better about ourselves, but also the choices we make. As we learn to reject the things that will harm us, we are more inclined to accept the things that will help us. Perhaps more importantly, we are able to learn to tell the difference between the two.
How can you tell the difference between what to accept and what to reject to help you stay stress-free? Most of us know instinctively what is going to cause us distress. These things never are accepted and must be rejected from our life, but what of those things that will cause us stress but not distress? Can we trust our instincts with them?
Growing through stress is not a bad thing and sometimes we do need to move outside of our comfort zone to achieve progress in our life. The key to knowing what will produce good stress and what will produce negative stress is to have a life plan and only accepting those things that contribute to our life plan. Saying no to other things helps keep us focused on our goals and thinking positively about our life experiences.
Mindset And Goals
How to Set Your Goals
Having a goal is a bit like having a destination. It gives you something to aim for, it gives you something to target, and it generally gives you a structure and direction that might otherwise be lacking. So, if you think of a goal as a destination and of life as a journey, it becomes apparent that without a goal of some kind, you are likely to be inconspicuous.
If you don’t know where that is, how can you get to where you want to be? Therefore, one of the most important aspects of developing a winning mentality is defining the goals you hope to achieve. But to do that, you also need to understand how to go about writing a useful goal. Because not all goals are made equal and, in fact, a ‘ bad goal’ can be a very destructive thing.
We’re going to take an in-depth look at precisely what makes the goal good or bad and what you can do to increase your chances of reaching those goals in the shortest time and with the minimum challenge.
Is A Goal Bad?
A goal could be a bad thing. And there are a number of reasons for this. First, a goal can be bad if it’s kept vague and if it’s used as a tool to help you placate yourself. Let’s be honest, many of our’ goals’ are not goals at all, but dreams. These are’ pie in the sky ‘ ideas that we like, but that we don’t make any real moves to accomplish.
We’re so often told that having goals and constantly visualizing them will help us achieve whatever we want and be tremendously successful. But have you actually checked the science? Unfortunately, the research paints a different picture. Rather than helping us get where we want to be, it seems that goals that take such a vague shape actually hinder our chances of success.
The problem is that we end up dreaming about what we want and visualizing it, but don’t actually follow it!
In fact, it could be that having a goal to visualize is what prevents us from feeling the need to take action. In a surprising study, it was found that talking about a goal could actually make you less likely to achieve it. Do you want to lose weight? Do you want to stop smoking? Don’t tell anybody about it.
The reason for this is simple: once you’ve told someone, you’re already feeling the’ ownership’ of that goal. You already feel like it’s a part of who you are. This is a problem because if you now think of yourself as someone who’s fit or someone who doesn’t smoke, you’re likely to feel like you don’t have to make any major changes to your lifestyle. You’re that thing now, so why bother?
It may well be that visualizing a goal or a dream does the same thing. When we picture ourselves rich, when we tell ourselves that one day this is going to be the case, we suddenly remove the incentive to take action. We’re already there as far as our brains are concerned! While it’s not a nice comparison to draw, it always makes me think of Auschwitz.
There, the Nazis had a big sign that read ‘Arbeit Macht Frei’. This translates to ‘Work Makes You Free.’ In other words, the goal was to give the prisoners in the camp just enough hope to keep them working. It was enough to prevent them from trying to gain that freedom.
Work doesn’t make you free in your life. Just like it wasn’t back then. If you want to be free, you need to change your approach and take action.
How To Take Action on Your Goals
So how exactly does one take action? The answer to this is to come up with a plan. It’s very different from a goal because it tells you exactly what you need to do. Yes, that means you need a goal. You just need to learn the difference between a goal and a plan. You have to recognize that a goal on its own is not enough. And in fact, the’ goal’ here is really a misnomer.
What you need more than just a goal is a vision. A vision is something that inspires you, something that gives you motivation and determination. A vision is what’s going to make you wake up in the morning. But it’s at times abstract, too. It’s hard to quantify it. And it’s hard to know exactly how you’re supposed to get to the point you want to get to.
This is where the plan comes in.
The plan is what bridges the gap between where you’re right now and where you want to be. And the very best plans are small, they’re measurable, and they’re directly under your control. The best plans are usually made up of a lot of smaller goals, each of which is going to be a step towards where you eventually want to be.
Don’t worry if all this talk of goals, plans, and visions is a bit complicated right now. We’re going to demystify what all this means, and we’re going to figure out exactly what you need to do to get to where you need to be.
Creating Your Vision
So the first thing you need is your vision. This is what many of us have once referred to as a goal. It’s the’ dream,’ if you want to. You might already have one of them. In that great case, you can skip to the next section. But there’s also a chance that you don’t know exactly what your vision is supposed to be.
This is something that is often overlooked in self-help texts and other advice. So often we’re told to’ go after our dreams,’ but what if we don’t know what that dream is? Many of us would say that we don’t want to link our dreams to our work. We don’t want to work towards a career because we’re not focused on a career. Other people may feel that they don’t want to limit themselves to just one dream.
What if you’re going to be a rock star and an actor? A programmer or an author, huh? If you can’t decide exactly what you want to do, and if you don’t know what you’re talking to on that important level, then you’re going to struggle to come up with a plan to get there. We’re back on that directionless journey. Okay, so in this case, what you need to do is simply close your eyes for a moment and imagine yourself in your perfect life.
It’s five, ten, or twenty years from now, and it’s all gone the way you always wanted it to be. Where are you, then? What’s the picture in your mind? Are you in the living room with your family, laughing with no care in the world? Are you standing somewhere on top of a mountain, having just traveled from an exotic place? Or maybe you’re in a high-rise office, looking out over the town below wearing an incredibly well-tailored suit.
This is not a specific goal in the conventional sense, but it suggests the’ emotional’ content that drives you forward. It may be a success in the conventional sense of the word. Maybe that’s the money. It might be family and free time. Maybe it’s a trip. Whatever the case may be, you can now look at how to do those things and work a little closer to your perfect future.
If you’re still struggling, there are a few more different psychological exercises you can use to get there. Ask yourself, for example, what was the best day you had recently. When was the last time you were overjoyed? Maybe it was when you bought a new computer, maybe it was when you had a whole day to relax. It might have been when you were on vacation. Or maybe it was just a nice day out with your friends.
Think about the things you’ve always wanted to be, and the things you’ve always dreamed of when you were younger. And think about your role models and heroes, too. What do they have in common with each other? What could you possibly learn from them? Respond to all of these questions, and hopefully, the picture will start to form. And the photo is all you need.
Just make sure that the picture is thoroughly assessed. Too often, we can end up hunting for fool’s gold: thinking that one thing will bring us happiness when, in reality, it just makes us less happy. For example, you might think that the key to happiness is to get a job as a high-level executive, just to discover that life is too fast and too stressful.
That’s why one last thing worth doing is talking to some people who are already where you’d like to be. What’s life like for them? How are they feeling about it? Oh, and one last thing: you could have more than one goal, of course. You might want to lose weight, quit smoking, and also become America’s next top model.
In this case, all the objectives are related. Or maybe you want to find love and become the CEO of your organization as well. Either way, you can have more than one goal, of course, and this is probably normal. But what you’re supposed to do in this case is to focus on at least one of those goals at a time. Sure, you may have multiple goals, but try to make one of them a’ primary’ goal at any given time.
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