Experience is the best teacher.
Adversity is the most accomplished trainer. No one really ever wants to face misfortune. We would all have preferred to go through life, enjoying the ride without bumps. However, things are not always as planned, and life is not a bed of roses and chocolates. There are always thorns somewhere. In this post, we’ll explore how the troubles that come our way have come to make us, not break us, and gives us the experience to use in the future.
Tough Times Are Not Avoidable
The truth that many people wish isn’t true but is the reality is that adversity is inevitable. There’re no magic potions or wands that can make an individual avoid troubles and misfortunes in life. Therefore, you shouldn’t be hoping that you won’t encounter unpleasant experiences in your life. Instead, you should be hoping that. You won’t experience difficulties that will break you to the extent that you won’t be able to rise up.
Indeed, there are terrible situations and experiences that can shake a person and make you feel you are cursed. However, if you keep rising from the ashes like the phoenix, you will live a beautiful life.
Adversity isn’t avoidable because of the following reasons.
You Have People and Things You Care About
Another reason tough times are unavoidable is that we have loved ones and things we want to work out. We all hope to enjoy the companionship and camaraderie of our friends and families for a long time. However, this is not often the case. Sometimes, we lose them to unfortunate situations such as diseases and accidents.
Those days are sad and dark in our lives. It is often tough to move on after the loss of a person very dear to us. Sadly, these situations are part and parcel of life. So, adversity isn’t avoidable because we don’t have control over situations such as how long our loved ones. We live. We care about them and will definitely be devastated when we lose them.
We All Have Emotions
One of the most significant differences between human beings and robots is that we have emotions, but they don’t. Our feelings are some of the most beautiful parts of our lives. They are why we feel appreciated when people celebrate us on our birthdays or when we achieve something significant. Our emotions are also the reasons we feel connected to loved ones and enjoy spending time with them.
However, our feelings are also responsible for unpleasant states such as depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideations. It is because you can feel that you are sad when you experience heartbreak. A robot, regardless of its sophistication, doesn’t understand such things. Your feelings are also responsible for experiences such as betrayals, disappointments, and frustrations. You will always have reasons for such feelings as long as you are alive. Therefore, adversity isn’t avoidable.
Adversity Is A Trainer
You should not ignore such wise words. Having been a leading voice of former slaves and their descendants who weathered oppression at different times, Washington knows a thing or two about adversity. Listen to what he has to say. You might not like the sound of it, but adversity is needed. It is that trainer who takes you by the hand and leads you to your thriving destination. Count it all joy during those days when it feels as though the universe has a grudge against you. It is training that will take away the dross from your silver and make you a shiny star.
According to Tony Robbins, “Problems are the gifts that make us dig out and figure out who we are, what we’re made for, and what we’re responsible for giving back to life.”
Try not to curse your luck during those moments you feel like your world is crashing. Your training is on! If you see things this way, you will be able to build more resilience. There is no other way to make a person strong and rugged than the tough times and experiences they have had. Those moments make you realize that you are stronger than you think. When you are always avoiding challenging situations and experiences, you miss the opportunities to train yourself for future challenges.
Below are the reasons you should not run away from challenges.
You’ll Not Be Able To Achieve Your Goals
There are always challenges you have to overcome before you can achieve a goal. Indeed, the level of difficulties differs. However, you must encounter and overcome difficult situations to accomplish your dreams and aspirations in life.
Therefore, it isn’t surprising that Booker T. Washington said earlier that a man’s success should be measured by how many obstacles he has overcome. No one can become a success without solving problems. Anyone unwilling to succeed despite odds stacking up against him should forget about becoming an achiever.
You’ll Become Vulnerable
The last thing you want is to be treated like a weakling. Nonetheless, you can set yourself up to be vulnerable to changes when you have a culture of looking for the easy way out. This approach will make you restricted to plan A. You will not be able to recover once something interferes with your original plan. For example, you will not be able to develop another winning strategy as an entrepreneur once your initial strategy isn’t working.
You’ll Not Be Able To Cope Effectively With Stress
Whether we like it or not, we cannot avoid stress. Therefore, we must have excellent coping mechanisms and strategies to avoid being overwhelmed by stress. When you have faced a stressful situation before, you won’t be anxious when facing it again.
However, when you are new to a situation or experience, you might not have the confidence to face it because you are naïve. This state of mind makes you prone to mistakes, which can be costly and damaging in some situations.
Critical Facts About Adversity
It’s easy to fall for the deception that some people are naturally more resilient than others. The truth is that resilience can be learned. You can be more sturdy and rugged when you understand some crucial facts about turbulent times. This post will explore some vital things you need to know about adversity that can give you a paradigm shift when facing difficult situations.
Tough Times Don’t Last Forever
You’ve probably heard people make this statement many times such that it is beginning to sound like a cliché. You just have to accept that it is an evergreen fact you need to keep repeatedly remembering to scale through the hurdles and challenges of life.
The reason two people face the same challenge but have different responses is their state of mind. The truth is that there are people around the world who have faced more difficult situations and still succeeded where you failed. So, you will be doing yourself a lot of good by choosing not to give excuses but finding solutions to the problems you encounter. The first thing you need to realize about turbulent times is that they are short-lived. The intensity and circumstances surrounding some situations might make you feel that you have come to the end of the road. Nonetheless, it’s nothing but a mirage. If you choose to be calm, you will find a way out of the problem.
Tough times are only for a while.
The following facts confirm this claim:
You Have Been in Trouble Before – When you realize that you have had challenging periods in your life in the past and you pulled through, it should make you know that troubles are only for a while. They come and try to throw you off balance. However, if you can stand your ground, you’ll only get stronger.
You Had Felt All Hope Was Lost In The Past – Another reason you shouldn’t lose hope in the current situation is that you had been in seemingly hopeless situations before, and you survived. If you could survive back then, why can’t you repeat the feat again? The current situation is another challenging circumstance trying to break you.
Just like previous times, there is a way out this time around. Nothing lasts forever, including your troubles. You need to remember that statement whenever you are experiencing tough times that might ruin all the progress you have made recently. Think healthy and think positive.
Adversity Is For All
People struggle to recover from turbulent times because they feel that life has been more unfair than others. It’s easy to compare yourself with other people in the modern world, thanks to social media. However, what you might be forgetting is the fact that people often post their best moments online. They hardly post pictures or say anything about the days they are broken because of an unpleasant situation.
So, you feel inadequate and worthless because you feel life has dealt you unfair cards while favoring others. However, it’s not true that some people are handpicked for suffering, while others are selected for positive experiences. Life is like a coin. It has two sides. One side is full of pleasant moments, while the other side is full of disappointments and frustrations.
Therefore, don’t get too excited when you are experiencing the coin’s side full of enjoyable situations and think that you would always get from life. You should keep the memories safe because you will need them during the days when things turn awry for you. When life brings adversity, don’t think that is the end of your life. If you keep calm and forge ahead, you will soon see the light at the end of the tunnel.
The beautiful thing about life is that it is fair to all. How? We all experience its two sides. Besides, no one is allowed to choose the part of life they want. Not even the richest men and women can choose what they want in life. Indeed, their money can take them to a great extent. Nonetheless, there are limitations. If money can save everyone, rich people would never die of any sickness.
However, famous and wealthy people lose their lives while receiving treatment. Besides, they also lose their loved ones. They experience divorce and heartbreaks, just like any other person. For example, Andy Murray, a famous Tennis star, lost his former girlfriend due to his habit of playing games. So, don’t think you lost your relationship because you’re broke. Whoever loves you will stick by you regardless of your financial capability. Regardless of your fame, money, and social status, you will have both sunny and rainy days. Enjoy your beautiful moments and share them with the people that matter to you.
Nonetheless, on those days when it’s as though life isn’t smiling at you, remember that adversity happens to all.
There’s No Glory Without Adversity
Finally, in this post, it’s crucial to remember that you cannot become a champion without tough times. Conquerors are what they are because they are battle-hardened. They have been hit at different times, but they refused to give up. The best military units in the world were forged in the furnace of adversity. They have been physically and mentally trained to be alert and respond to problematic situations.
Champions don’t see challenges and break down in tears. Instead, they eat trouble for breakfast. When you see how calm some people are when facing turbulent times, you might be tempted to wonder if they are human beings. However, nobody was born that way. We become weak or strong due to our previous responses to challenging situations. When you run away from a problem, you will have to keep running from similar situations for the rest of your life.
However, when you confront the problem and solve it, you’ll not be anxious when you are in similar experiences in the future. When you keep running away from challenges, you will remain mediocre for the rest of your life. You will have to endure watching others enjoy the limelight because of their grit and determination. You’ll always be in the crowd celebrating others, but you’ll never be celebrated.
The world doesn’t award or celebrate people who break down when they are facing difficult situations. Instead, the world celebrates people who refused to give up even when the odds were stacked against them. The stories of such people are the inspiring biographies and autobiographies we read today. Their stories are made into blockbuster movies so that others facing similar experiences can learn from them. The ball is in your court now. Will you give up or choose to stand up to your “Goliath” and become a champion? Choices, we make them every day. Day one or one day? Choose. Check out my post on The Benefits of Positive Thinking, for a deeper look into the power of thinking positively.