There is a good chance that in reaction to real or perceived challenges at one time or another, we have all encountered feelings of anxiety. Such sentiments are common for most people as the mind is hard-wired to alert you in times of risk, transition, and the unknown.
Yes, feeling a certain amount of anxiety and pressure in many situations will help increase your performance in particular tasks. For example, a person may experience an increased level of anxiety the days leading up to a social event, and that’s a normal reaction.
Psychologists agree that anxiety is the natural response of your body to stress, and this stress activates a brain network that amplifies your performance. And, now and then, a little anxiety is all right and maybe the way the body is prepared for an upcoming change.
But Not Every Anxious Feeling Is Normal
Such emotions must be all-consuming for some, impairing the willingness of the person to live life as they would like to. To some, anxiety could treat their daily events as situations of life or death. It can turn into disease, and it’s not an excellent spot to be.
Luckily, there’s always a way out in most situations. And one of the first moves is to delve into your mind and pay attention to what it might be actually telling you.
There’s no guilt in being nervous over acknowledging the fear, welcoming it, and knowing it too. And we’d rather not have this obvious point (because it’s obvious and shouldn’t need any re-affirmation, ideally). Yet unfortunately, because of how this emotion can be downplayed and/or stereotyped, it is necessary to let all those who suffer from anxiety know that they are not alone.
Anxiety can be conquered it by understanding it. Likewise, it is essential to let someone know that the suffering among those with anxiety should not be overlooked. Worse, they should not demonize people who are anxious by saying.
Such things as’ you’re overacting’ or’ you’re so OCD’ when they may be unaware enough or not.
This is an attempt to describe a very important matter. I will keep it short and simple because I would not want to burden you with details but would like to make it simpler in one topic at a time on the extensive subject.
With this, I will try to explain how anxiety will take over your life without you even knowing it. I show you the mirror, but I will also teach you how to make yourself the best self because I think it’s something you would like to be.
We will go over about seven ways that fear may slowly eat your life away.
We are discussing:
- Overthinking and obsessive thoughts
- Lack of self-assurance and fear of judgment
- Phobias and Traumas
- Workplace anxiety
- Social anxiety
- Eating disorder
- And finding your journey towards the solution
Obsessive Thoughts And Overthinking
When was the last you had a passing, rather invasive thought that seemed to come from nowhere, from far beyond your immediate collective thinking realm?
If you’re like most people, the answer might be nearer than you originally thought.
Now, sometimes we all get wound up with brief and unrealistic thoughts, and that becomes a new normal (unless you train your mind to think less and drop your negative ideas). You see, now and then (more often than we might actually like it to be), we all have passing thoughts or feelings that may seem out of our control.
They can pose a significant chronic problem when they start consuming you. Psychologists agree that overthinking stimulates the same regions of the brain that are involved in fear and anxiety. People with a history of anxiety disorder are more vulnerable to this state of mind.
How The Brain Responds to Anxiety
Our thoughts can manifest in our bodies as physical reactions. The body releases stress hormones into the bloodstream when they are exposed to any form of fear in response to the flight-or-fight reaction. Such stress hormones can manifest in reactions like rapid heartbeat, vomiting, nausea, sweating, muscle tension, stammering, and shaking, if not resolved quickly. Worse, they can also weaken the immune system over time and due to negligence, and end up leaving us susceptible to a host of ailments.
Intrusive thoughts may be a daily routine for some, making it the cause for episodes of fear and extreme anxiety. They may also be the result of anxiety itself and may add to what the person is already experiencing a layer of fear and stress.
Such kinds of intrusive thoughts may be unbearable, causing a person to be obsessed with them. For starters, you have a job ahead of you. It’s straightforward and simple.
But the thoughts in your mind may overload you with endless possibilities and information, most of which may be unnecessary and unwanted. “What if anything unexpected springs up, what could the unknown stuff be, and can I manage it?” “What if I am judged, what if I fall short? “What if when I do this task I get a panic attack? “These thoughts are very real and bring panic on the person who encounters them, sometimes even pushing them to opt-out of the job.
Unwanted And Negative Thoughts
Thoughts sometimes, these thoughts may also appear beyond our minds. The content may be unpredictable, uncertain, strange, and maybe even violent, as well. And because, in essence, they seem so extreme, they will come back to haunt us over and over again, causing feelings of guilt, anger, frustration, despair, and helplessness.
If hearing such thoughts is not adequately traumatic, the person may have to live in constant fear of doing them.
The toxic combination of guilt and fear will make you feel less deserving, causing you to retreat and keep your illness hidden. The more you try to avoid them, the more they will come back. The more you try to reason with them, the more they are adamant. It may appear like a vicious cycle without a path of escape. It’s just there. Not one, but several windows to a more calm and peaceful state of mind.
Here are some powerful ways to help these emotions to be silent:
- Agree that these thoughts are involuntary and that they may come and go at will. -Don’t stop this.
- They’re insignificant, intrusive thoughts that don’t define or become you.
- Believe it’s going to pass this time too. Give yourself some time.
- Expect your thoughts to return again.
- Remember you’re above it, and when it comes back, you’ll be prepared to address it.
- Continue your jobs, concentrate on doing them properly.
- Be mindful of the fear, but have no interest or connection to it.
Fear Of Rejection And Lack Of Self-Esteem
Unfortunately, as much as we would dispute it, we live in a world where people believe what they choose to believe, as compared to what the truth may be. Humans like to easily interpret, presume, evaluate, and compartmentalize others, often based on their first impressions and so-called “good-feelings.”
So, if you manage to impress people within the first few moments of your contact, they will judge you as important and therefore deserving of their company, and if you don’t, they will immediately mark you as insignificant and meaningless. Also, as much as we as a group would like to disagree, we knowingly or unknowingly endorse and even contribute to this ideology.
We all want to be included, loved, respected and embraced. We try it from outside, from society, rather than searching for values from within ourselves. In those with anxiety problems, these emotions can be magnified. It can be difficult for anyone to feel confident and safe to express your thoughts and act at will, more so for people who are struggling with anxiety issues.
Because the brain is trapped in a state of the stress response, people with anxiety can feel overwhelmed and frustrated with the sheer effort to try to be what they don’t feel. This can accelerate their levels of stress and increase their lack of self-esteem and confidence. We can feel forced to retire to a shell because of all that happens inside and around them. They may shield themselves from all the sound and chatter and quiet the inside confusion.
If you experience these feelings, I’d like to know you’re not alone.
Fortunately, there’s a solution to this situation. The trick is to establish a strong relationship first with yourself then with the exterior world.
- Converse with yourself. Reflect on everything you’re going through. Why do you think, hear and see something that you’re doing? Is there a lesson you’re missing? Journal your thoughts and feelings. Focus on the responses.
- Face your personal demons, the unprecedented story from the perspective of an outsider. What’s that telling you? Can you do anything to help alleviate it? How would you like to see yourself in the next five years?
- What stops you from going there? Focus on them. Plan on them.
- Use verbal statements to remember how beautiful you are.
- Develop a connection to the outside world at first, with your loved ones. Create a space for affection. Through their love and affection, you’re going to do well.
- Talk to people close to you and share with them what you’re going through.
- When you feel low, get support and encouragement. Without thinking about being judged or belittled, share yourself honestly. A great many people want to reach out and help. All you need to do is ask and let them in.
- Reward yourself on your journey by praising yourself.
You’re back to being yourself’s best version!